My phone is so decluttered I’m bored. What?!?
So there was a point, where there were positives and negatives to social media.
At some point the bad outweighed the good.
So I got off of Facebook and then did it 3 more times before God locked me out forever. (Seriously, there is no way back in)
Then for Lent last year I deleted Pinterest. I felt like that was me looking at beautiful things and thinking my things always needed to be prettier, better etc. it always left me feeling discontent.
I have unsubscribed to all emails. So I only get about 1-3 emails a day. Seriously, someone email me!
So if I got rid of all the negative clutter 👎🏻, what are some positive things I can do on my phone ?
I say my prayers on my Laudate App in the morning. ( honestly , that’s a terrible habit because I end up doing other things on my phone)
I declutter my phone once a day.
Now that I’m blogging, I do this once a day. So I go to pick up my phone and it is “empty” there is nothing to look at.
It forces me to look at the other people in the room. Usually I say “hey 👋 so and so”
Like : newsflash we have been in the same room but not talking.
My phone can not cure my boredom.
My phone cannot make me feel creative.
My phone can not develop my marriage.
My phone can not help me connect with my kids.
My phone does not make me happy.
I keep picking it up to do what ? I guess out of habit, maybe out of boredom.
After talking with Brandon and my Brother about this, we came up with a few observations.
My husband (who is very talented at being “in the moment”) says he thinks The phone is a counterfeit for connections and relationships. It’s about as real as a going for a “walk” on a live screensaver. It’s a fake.
Women are so relational and social that we crave connections however we can get it. I truly believe that families long ago lived down the street from each other. Cousins could play together, young moms were visiting and sharing the burdens of motherhood and grandmothers were around offering experience. To me , there is nothing more “helpful” than just a visit ! So every time I grab my phone I’m chasing a fake. I’m longing for conversations and relationships! Motherhood can be very lonely. My aunt used to say one of the crosses of motherhood is boredom. And now I know what she meant. Before children , I could come and go as I please and go after all my goals. It has been a daily sacrifice to “serve” children , tend my home and love my husband. And it gets lonely.
I think we all face “loneliness” in different ways. And when we find ourselves in silence, we face it along with all our anxieties and insecurities. And it’s soooo uncomfortable!
If you have ever given up radio in the car for Lent, you know what I’m talking about!
It is strange to drive without radio!
But as my Brother reminded me Mother Theresa said
“Silence leads to prayer!”
The devil is the one swirling us with distractions, What a victory for Satan that silence is a thing of the past.
So now that I have stripped satan of his distraction super power I have to decide what to fill that longing with. I’m longing for connections and relationships. More than not, every time I am on the phone or goto my phone for a “quick fix” there are actual people in the room. People who are starving for the same connections and probably on their own electronic device lol. So I’m making it a point ☝️ to embrace that super weird feeling of not being distracted and not getting on my phone. I will either say a prayer or make it a point to smile at the person in front of me
“Lord let something Sacred happen ”
I did it this morning, i didn’t grab my phone and I had about 10 special moments with the kids. Tiny moments that I would not have experienced had I been distracted.
Not to get too deep lol but I observed a very strange thing, there was this overwhelming sense of Real , that’s the only way I can describe it. Looking at actual people, they are #1 are not 2D, # 2 you are looking at real time not pictures of the past moments.
Here was the daily reflection from Mother Theresa today: